Contact me for psychotherapy, counselling & coaching in Sydney or online | [email protected] | M: +61 427 357 607

BLOG

Suffering from mental burnout or depression as a knowledge worker?

Mental burnout and depression are both serious conditions that affect many knowledge workers. According to a 2019 report by Safe Work Australia, mental stress, including depression and anxiety, was a leading cause of work-related health problems among Australian workers, including knowledge workers. The report stated that 92% of work-related mental health condition claims were attributed to mental stress. This is hardly surprising with the fast-paced nature of today's work environment. It's easy to become overwhelmed and exhausted by the constant demands placed upon you, particularly when you have a tendency to get caught up in the excitement of being busy and needed, and, when you have an active inner people pleaser. In this blog post, we will explore what mental burnout is, how it is similar and different to depression, how mental burnout can affect knowledge workers, and some strategies for preventing and managing mental burnout.

 

What is mental burnout?

Mental burnout is a...

Continue Reading...

Beyond burnout: How prioritising work-life balance can boost your resilience

On International Women’s Day, last week, I had the opportunity to present on the Art of Work-Life Balance to a group of women located across South-East Asia. for a client. In preparation for the presentation, I tried to find a definition of work-life balance and found there isn’t a shared definition. So, I went with this one, “Work-life balance is typically defined as the amount of time you spend doing your job versus the amount of time you spend with loved ones or pursuing personal interests and hobbies.” It was curious to me that with all the discussion about work-life balance we haven’t defined it. But I suppose that is what work-life balance is about, it’s what it means for you as an individual, so why would there be a universally accepted definition because what I might consider healthy work life balance may not be it for you.

 

Interestingly the participants all had a pretty good idea of what work-life balance looked like it for them...

Continue Reading...

Achieving consistency: Tips & tricks

“Success isn’t always about greatness. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come.” – Dwayne Johnson

 

When it comes to success, consistency is key. Whether you’re looking to make progress in your career, relationships, or any other aspect of life, staying consistent in your actions is essential.

 

Consistency allows you to build momentum and start to make real progress. But achieving and maintaining consistency can be difficult. 

 

Before I share some tips about how to make being consistent easier, I want to talk about the 3 most common barriers to consistency that I encounter with clients in my practice. Without addressing the barriers to consistency, it is hard to implement strategies that help you to become more consistent. So, I’ll first discuss the barriers to consistency, particularly the roles of self-trust, planning and attaching meaning to your goal. 

 

3...

Continue Reading...

How to listen to your intuition and follow your instincts

Everyone has intuition, but not everyone listens to it. It’s usually because they don’t know how to tap into their instinct and recognize when it’s appropriate to trust it. For those who ignore it, they may feel that their intuition has got them into trouble in the past and let them down, so ignoring it is a safer option. Some people have a highly developed intuition, while others only feel a slight inkling; a weird feeling in their stomach; which can be scary, so they’re not sure what to do with it.

 

When you learn to get in sync with your intuition, the better you’ll be at making decisions. Intuition can be a powerful guiding force in your life as it is guided by your values. 

 

Practice makes perfect

Going all-in with your intuition takes time, and it’s not super easy. It may take years of practice until you are perfectly in tune with it, and it all starts with small steps. Here are some tips on how to listen to your intuition...

Continue Reading...

Do you have an alcohol problem? Red flags to look out for

addiction alcohol goals Feb 20, 2023

When people get together for a night out, alcohol is often part of the plan. It's possible to relax and unwind with a few drinks, but it's also possible to go too far and develop a drinking problem.

Unfortunately, many people don't realise they have an issue with alcohol until it's too late. Fortunately, some red flags to look out for may indicate you have a drinking problem. In this blog, we'll cover the biggest signs of a drinking problem and what to do if you're concerned you may be struggling with alcohol.

 

What exactly is a drinking addiction?

A drinking problem, also known as an alcohol use disorder, is a serious condition that causes a person to have difficulty controlling their drinking. It can range in severity from mild to severe, and if not addressed, it might get much worse and lead to vehicular endangerment.

Some signs of alcoholism include drinking more than planned, getting drunk often, and finding it hard to cut down or stop drinking. If you think you or...

Continue Reading...

Reclaim your life: The benefits of reinventing yourself

In our society, it’s easy to feel like you need to constantly be proving yourself and your abilities. We’re told from an early age that we need to succeed in order to feel worthy of being loved, and that we shouldn’t trust anyone until we’ve proven ourselves.

 

But what if the opposite was true? And what if the only way you could ever truly feel worthy was by first trusting yourself and then finding ways to love and appreciate who you are?

 

These types of messages can make it difficult for us to accept our flaws or embrace our inner wholeness. However, this is exactly what we all need in order to start making changes in our lives that will help us become happier versions of ourselves.

 

Everyone who chooses to see a therapist, counsellor or coach is looking to reinvent a part or all of themselves by making a change to how they perceive a situation, themselves or others or to change the way they are perceived by making some changes to...

Continue Reading...

Finding the love of your life doesn’t have to be hard

Often, when a client comes in and asks, “What’s wrong with me, why can’t I find someone to settle down with?” I often find myself asking, “What have you tried so far?” to which they usually reply with a whole list of activities that have not lead to any meaningful relationship but rather a series of false starts. It can be disheartening out there in the dating world as not everyone has the same intentions as you. However, if your selection process is faulty, you’re really going to struggle to meet someone who expands who you are, no matter how many activities you engage in.  

 

Defining what you’re really looking for

When thinking about what you’re looking for in a partner the obvious characteristics are most likely there, like attractive, kind, reliable, intelligent and funny. Those are relatively easy things for someone to achieve in the early days of dating. 

 

When you’re imagining who you would...

Continue Reading...

Rekindling intimacy & romance in your relationship when you both have limited time

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics, the divorce rate in Australia has been steadily declining since the mid-1980s. In 2020, the divorce rate was 2 divorces per 1,000. The average length of marriage at divorce was 12.2 years. While these statistics may not accurately reflect the full picture of the divorce landscape, as many don’t formally divorce or they may have chosen to divorce in another country, it is sobering to realise that it’s most common for couples who have been married 12+ years. 

 

I remember when my husband and I celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary, and we had a 6-year-old child and a 2-year-old, and we were both working full-time. Our children are now 16 and 12 respectively. It was a very busy time for us. We were focused on getting what needed to be done, done. And if you’re not careful that pattern of behaviour can continue until one day you wake up and feel like you’re living in a house share, with no intimacy or...

Continue Reading...

How failure teaches you to be more flexible

"The green reed which bends in the wind is stronger than the mighty oak which breaks in a storm." – Confucius

 

Researchers and scholars often point to this quote by Confucius as the basis for why it's necessary to be flexible to overcome challenges. The flexible reed bends and flows with the wind of adversity, allowing it to survive the challenge.  The strong, mighty oak isn't flexible, so the wind of adversity breaks it apart.  The new shoots that sprout from the old oak will be flexible enough to withstand the next storm.

 

We are all human and therefore failure is inevitable. For some it happens early in life and for others not until mid-life. Over the past 6 months I have worked with a number of people who were experiencing their own version of failure e.g., not being able to conceive, a relationship falling apart, and being unable to provide for a family member in the way they wanted to. 

 

With each of these experiences, my client felt like...

Continue Reading...

The reasons we develop bad habits and why they’re so hard to break

Why we develop bad habits 

Have you ever found yourself engaging in a bad habit and wondering why you can't seem to stop? Unfortunately, it's common to fall into bad habits – whether it’s procrastination, unhealthy eating, or neglecting self-care. In your quest for self-improvement, know that discovering and understanding the underlying reasons for these bad habits is the first step toward making positive changes. 

 

Common reasons for developing bad habits

There are many reasons for taking up bad habits, but the following are among the most common. 

1. Boredom - When bored, turning to unhealthy habits to pass the time or find entertainment is not unusual. To overcome boredom-related bad habits, it’s important to find activities that are engaging and meaningful to you. This might involve taking up a new hobby, volunteering, or pursuing personal growth opportunities.

2. Stress - Stress is a common trigger for bad habits such as...

Continue Reading...
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12
Close

50% Complete

Download my eBook: Strategies for Managing Your Emotions