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7 Strategies to stop making excuses for not taking action on your big goals

Are you the master of making excuses? Do you have a reason ready for every conversation when you’re asked why you haven’t taken any action towards your Big Goals yet? If so, it’s time to take action. Those Big Goals have waited in the wings long enough. Today is the day your life changes for the better! How? you might ask. Keep reading to learn some easy techniques designed to get you in to action and your life back on track, in no time.


7 Strategies to stop making excuses

1. Be you

If you think you can’t get anywhere because someone else already done it better, think again. Regardless of who you’re comparing yourself to, no one will tackle a problem in quite the same way you will. Instead, relax and jump into action - your way. See where being you can take you.


2. Step into the unknown

Holding back because you don’t know what’s going to happen next? Sometimes you just have to find your hidden adventurer and go for it. Indulge...

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Why people pleasers need a bucket list

goalsetting Sep 26, 2022

Are you a people pleaser?

We all want to be liked right? Yes, and some of us want to be liked more than others. It’s only natural. However, if you find yourself turning yourself inside out to get in the good books of others, to be included or well-regarded and to avoid negative feedback, then it is a strategy that has become overused. And it’s not doing you any favours. 


While the goal of being a people pleaser may be noble, the way it is executed can leave you feeling anxious and regularly disappointed as not everything is going to turn out how you’d hoped or planned. You cannot control how others respond to you, only how you respond to your environment and others. 


What’s the impact of people pleasing? 

All of this people-pleasing comes at a cost to you which you may not have yet recognised. Here are some of the main impacts: 

1. Suppressing emotions leading to stress, anxiety, fatigue and illness. Often...

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Maintaining momentum as you celebrate your achievements

career goals goalsetting habit Jul 17, 2022

Beware the gap between achieving and re-focusing your energies on new goals. For every person who sets goals, there inevitably comes a time when they need to review them, tick them off and set some more goals. And I am no different. 


The past 3 months have been incredibly productive for me, and I have been able to tick off some big-ticket items on my goals list. However, it has also led to some inertia that has been frustrating and downright confusing. I now realise I have been basking in the glow of achievement to the extent that I have been unable to get focused again until now. Thankfully my diary has kept me going. For those who follow me, you will have noticed that I haven’t posted for 3-4 weeks and that’s because I have had what many might call ‘writer’s block’. But in truth I think it’s because I am yet to find the balance between celebrating my achievements and progressing forward. I have made the effort to knowledge my...

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5 Ways goal setting leads to success, no matter who you are

It’s that time of year when aspiring individuals reflect on the past year and re-focus on how to make positive changes this coming year. Recognising what worked and what didn't. Not going to be you? Think carefully about your decision. By deciding not to set goals you’re setting yourself up to another year of the same. Even stay-at-home parents and students reflect on the previous year and make plans for the year. You don't need to have a high powered job to set goals. Everyone who hopes for a better future has goals and dreams, unfortuantely not everyone focuses their energy to achieve them. Focusing your energy to achieve your hopes and dreams is the first step towards achieving your goals.


Follow these 5 steps to help you get closer to your goals.

1. Setting goals allows you to laser focus on what you want.
Instead of waking every morning with no idea of what tasks to focus on, having your goals written down allows you to make a daily to do list with tasks...

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Goal setting: 5 Mistakes smart people make

Have you considered your goals for 2022 yet? Goals provide an objective standard to which you can evaluate your success. They also help you stay motivated and provide focus to increase the likelihood of you reaching those goals. Some people think the planning stage is boring and unnecessary but even successful people who prefer the “fly by the seat of your pants” approach to their life and career have specific goals in mind. Not having goals is equivalent to boarding a train and never getting off! That would be mad to do, wouldn’t it?   


Take a few minutes and think about what you want to accomplish in your personal life and professional life and make sure you’re not making any of these mistakes in your goal-setting process. 


5 goal setting mistakes smart people make 

1. Procrastinating

You don’t need to wait until you get back to work to set your goals or wait for a sign before you finalise them. Instead, set quarterly...

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How to change your habits for the better

change goalsetting habits Oct 05, 2021

If changing habits were easy, there wouldn’t be so many books written on the topic and I would be out of a job!


As you notice signs of the loosening of lockdown, you can allow yourself to imagine your life post lockdown. While you may have struggled through the physical distancing, reduced socialising and managing to go without, you now have an opportunity to design how you emerge into this new way of being.  


You have shown through your experience that you can adapt, dodge and accept situations for what they are when you need to. And now it’s time to call on those skills again to prepare to emerge strong; to declutter from the no longer helpful skills (4pm wine o’clock and Netflix series binges to name a few) and adopt an approach that will support you as you re-integrate into your socialised world.


What habits do you want to change?

I’m betting that there are a good of number of habits that you have adopted that you don’t...

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Advantages of behaviour based goals


Everyone said 2021 was going to be a better year. And it certainly looked like it until a couple of months ago. My hometown of Sydney has been in lockdown for a number of weeks and it has forced me to re-evaluate how I set my goals, as some of them won’t be met, and that’s not for lack of effort.


How you set, frame, and execute your goals will make a big difference to your potential results. You need motivation and a plan. With any goal, you don’t always have control over the outcome. However, you do have control over the process, which is where your behavior and actions come in.


Behavior-based goals are goals that are focused more on achievable actions rather than a specific outcome. These goals help you to become the person who can achieve the results you want to achieve. When you create behavior-based goals, the process itself is the focus rather than a specific number, metric, or score.


For example, I set myself a goal of writing a...

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Set Your Goals: It's not too late!

Imagine planning a holiday to an unknown destination and paying to travel aimlessly or wherever the wind blows you. Before you realize it, your time has run out, your money is spent, and you haven’t seen or experienced anything worth remembering. Sounds crazy, right?  Well, this could be what happens to your year if you don’t set any goals. You run the risk of finishing the year with little achievement and lowered self-efficacy as goalsetting is positively linked to higher motivation, self-esteem, self-confidence, and autonomy [1].  


A goal is an idea of the future or desired result that a person or a group of people envision, plan and commit to achieve. Goalsetting is the process of determining the goal.


According to Inc Magazine, 85% of goal setters will abandon their goals and only 8% of those who set goals will achieve them [3]. Now some of that could be attributed to adjusting the goals that were initially set however based on my...

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