In my practice I get the privilege of working with smart people from a broad range of careers who mostly struggle with managing boundaries. I know growing up I was told ‘be polite’, ‘respect your elders’ and ‘don’t rock the boat,‘ and while they were well intended phrases from my parents, they became so ingrained that they became a hinderance to me in my career.
I was one of the lucky ones. I learned it early on in my career thanks to a wonderful manager who was highly effective at managing her own boundaries. She had kid gloves when she said ‘No’ in her oh so many ways. What many people don’t realize is that when we say ‘yes’ to something we are also saying ‘no’ at the same time to something else. You may be guilty of this without even knowing it!
In order to be successful, others need to know who you are, and they can’t work it out if you are saying...
In March 2020, Australia closed its borders and so our love-hate relationship with ‘Lockdown’ began. I remember in the early stages people were happy to be working from home. There seemed to be extra energy in the air. It meant being able to put on a load of washing before the 10am video-conference call, spending more time with family, getting more sleep due to decreased commute times and feeling a little bit ‘naughty’ wearing comfortable clothes rather than the 'corporate outfit' while negotiating a million-dollar deal. Now nine months on, many are keen to get back to their office, sit at their desk and chat to colleagues in the corridor. Sadly many are being told this won't be possible until mid-2021. Others are quite content to be working from home indefinitely.
Whatever your situation, it is more important than ever that we recognise nobody is immune from burnout and that we are vigilant around the signs of burnout for ourselves,...
Traditionally people do seek out counsellors when they're experiencing emotional pain, or feeling stuck and don't know what to do next. However proactive people also choose to see a counsellor when they're looking to for an unbiased perspective or want to cultivate and grow the positive aspects already present in their lives.
Here are the top nine excuses I hear when a client first finds me and starts to explain why they hadn't come to see me sooner.
It’s a common belief that people can only see counsellors when something is amiss or wrong. Far from it. Many people enlist the support of a counsellor to continue building positive habits, just like hiring a personal trainer at the gym. With their specialist skills in human behaviour and non-judgemental approach clients can accelerate their transformation and embed the desired habits quicker. There is only so much you can achieve without external support.